Girl Talk: Should I remain Friends with an Ex?

Hi Guysss! Its week 3 of Girl Talk .... we are excited :-) I received a question via E-mail and thought that it should be today's topic. I'll give my opinion and some general tips.

Should I remain friends with an ex?

In my opinion No! They are called an "Ex" for a reason. I think this can create a lot of problems especially if there was no closure and that person does not realize there was none. I personally don't remain fiends because I just don't see the point. With that being said, here the the worst reasons to stay friends with an ex.

1. You Hope someday they will change: Here's the thing ... in actuality people never change for other people, they change for themselves. If you met a person who was one way.. maybe they are not looking for a commitment, there is nothing you can do to change that ( not even the best sex in the world ) . If they do change, it will be for themselves rather than for you.

The Break Up - Vince Vaughn & Jennifer Aniston 

2. To Keep tabs on Them: This is wrong on soooo many levels. We live in the age of "Social Media Gratification". Trolling an ex's Instragram or Facebook will bring more harm than good. Just one day while you are scrolling through, you might see a girl or guy that could possibly be your replacement. Also! there are certain phones that show the location of where a person is ( best invention ) . But again! This should not be used for Trolling.

3. Because you are lonely: We are humans and at some point we do get lonely ( even those people who've lived with each for years) Sometimes there is something that is just missing which makes you feel lonely and totally dependent. If you are feeling lonely on a Saturday night for example and call over your ex to watch a movie .. this will make you feel worst because they will have to go home at the end of the night and you will be back to square one.

4. You feel bad for them : If you initiated the break-up, this is all your fault Let's get real , sooo you sprung a surprise break-up on your significant while they were going through a difficult time in life. Maybe you needed attention they couldn't give or you are just a jerk! If you feel like you owe them an apology , give them a genuine one, don't drag it out and move on!

5. To keep them on the back burner: Cynical and Sinister. Keeping an ex around because you feel like there is nothing better out there can be detrimental to you both. This holds you back from venturing out into the dating pool and unfair to your ex. Sometimes you just have to close a door and make sure its closed fully!

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  1. Anonymous5:08 PM

    Exes should stay one place only .. in the past!

  2. Anonymous5:09 PM

    Looooved "The Break- Up" Vince played a really good jerk . I think you can be friends .. just keep them at a distance and don't talk about deep issues. If you see them on the Road a simple "Hi" .. how you doing and move on!


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